Is a Narcissist Attacking Your Purpose?
By James M. Rink
Narcissistic Abuse affects over 158 million People in the U.S.
Most people don’t know what narcissistic abuse is and why they target people with a Purpose.
A narcissist’s enemy is People on Purpose. I believe their motive is to make another person’s Purpose be focused on THEM rather than to serve the greater good of mankind.
In my work to help people to discover, define and live their life’s Purpose, I have discovered a war waging between narcissists and People on Purpose.
Narcissistic abuse is an emotional and psychological abuse. It is inflicted by individuals who have either narcissistic personality disorder, which is characterized by a lack of empathy, or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD, also known as sociopaths or psychopaths), and is associated with the absence of a conscience.
Fundamentally narcissists do not have empathy. This makes them target empathic people.
People on Purpose are highly empathic and are committed to living a life to serve the greater good of others. Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. Empathy is essential for people living their life’s Purpose. Narcissists prey on empathic people.
The more you are living your Purpose the more you will be a target for a narcissist.
People on Purpose are focused on connecting with others thru feelings. To explain, let’s use My Purpose Statement and Purpose of You’s formula for Purpose…
Feelings + Actions + People = Purpose
My Purpose is to communicate hope, to help people, to make People happy.
A narcissist wants my purpose to communicate hope to THEM, to help THEM and to make THEM happy and NOT to other people.
In my experience, narcissistic abuse is covert, and often disguised as love and care, but it’s anything but.
It’s not a single act of cruelty. It’s the insidious, gradual, and intentional erosion of a person’s sense of self-worth.
It’s a combination of emotional and psychological abuse aimed at undermining a person’s identity for the sole purpose of obtaining control for personal gain.
It can involve patterns of dominance, manipulation, intimidation, emotional coercion, withholding, dishonesty, extreme selfishness, gaslighting, financial abuse, extreme jealousy and possessiveness.
Today, we are living in a cultural war between a rise in narcissism and a rise in Purpose in our work and lives.
I believe people 40 years and older are tired of being taken advantage of by narcists and want Purpose. Gen Z and Millennials work for Purpose not a paycheck and want relationships of Purpose in their lives.
Joseph M. Pierre, M.D. a Health Sciences Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences, David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA states…
“If you look around, it’s hard not to conclude that narcissism in America is on the rise and out of control. We spend hours a day on social media posting about ourselves and checking out the posts of our “friends.” We worship celebrities, some of whom have done little other than engage in relentless self-promotion.”
If you are a person on Purpose you may feel under attack. The best way to protect yourself against narcissistic abuse is to know your Values + Purpose.
Here is how…
Purpose business leaders like Walt Disney, John Nordstrom and Southwest’s Herb Kelleher used Purpose and Values statements to build and PROTECT their companies. Values in business PROTECT the company’s Purpose.
My Core Values are Honesty, Integrity, Accountability and Fairness.
When a narcissist wants to attack my Purpose, they will trespass one of my Core Values. When they trespass, I have an immediate red flag that goes up so I can address the violation.
Having your Core Values declared helps you to easily recognize the trespass of attack and to then protect, confront and deal with it quickly.
You cannot control narcissists attack against you and your Purpose, but you can control how you react, protect and deal with it.
You cannot fully live your life’s Purpose being enslaved by a narcissist. You must break free. If you have experienced the trauma of Narcissistic Abuse here are 3 tips to help.
To break free from Narcissistic Abuse, I recommend Kim Saeed’s Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program. Kim’s blogs and online course are a great resource to understand, heal and recover yourself and your Purpose.
Radically Forgive the narcissists in your life. This is a freedom for you so that your passion and Purpose can thrive in your life.
Discover, Define in declarations and Live your life’s Purpose with your Values to PROTECT you and your Purpose against narcissists.
If this blog speaks to you, I believe it is because your Purpose is calling you to a better life. I invite you to follow me on social media @JamesMRink and subscribe to my blogs and learn at PurposeOfYou.com
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